How do we stop childhood bullying?

How feel there to be bullied and teased? Hopefully this is something we will never experience. Being a mother is a subject very close to my heart. I saw with horror that my child is the victim of intimidation. All parents want to protect their child, but bullying often occurs out of sight of adults. It is deliberate and is intended to cause harm. It is a horrible thing to experience that you're a child or an adult. It tends to peak in the age group 11-12 and severity of incidents tend to increase as age increases. As parents and care providers we must understand that bullying is not a normal part of growth.

Bullying is a general term which is applied to a pattern of behaviour where a person chooses to move their aggression on someone else, usually chosen for their apparent vulnerability to the aggressor, they constantly criticize, nit-pick, exclude the Child, isolate and tease with verbal, psychological, emotional and physical violence. When a child confides to us that they are being bullied we must take very seriously. Passing through the trauma of being the victim of intimidation is very painful for the victim and must be treated quickly. It is a terrible experience, which may rightly fear the child and desperate. The purpose of bullying is never the fault of the child.

It tends to be three types of people involved in the majority of incidents of intimidation, aggression, intimidation and the viewer. Bystanders to assist in encouraging or reward their behavior, laugh, participate or failing to intervene and are in many cases, as much to blame as the aggressor himself.

Bullying happens in all schools if we want to believe or not. Good schools are proactive in their approach and deal with incidents of intimidation quickly, firmly and fairly. While poor schools try to brush under the carpet deny it ever happened. In most schools who claim "There is no intimidation here," the prime objective is to protect the school against the bad publicity and to divert attention from the fact that the school does has no control of discipline, poor interpersonal skills and is itself a poor teachers. The experience of being victims of intimidation of the child is traumatic.

Hard torment their prey for months, often years. They are weak, disordered, dysfunctional and emotionally immature as evidenced by their need for intimidation. They tend to have negative interactions with others and such interactions are a feature of low self-esteem. Even adults find it difficult to defend itself against the onslaught of attackers, especially a series tyrant. It is a form of violence which seeks to inflict the maximum physical, psychological and emotional wounds. The intimidation prevents children to undertake their studies and the results of classes that are lower than they would otherwise be, which means that the school seems to lower the league tables than they otherwise would. Bullying is committed by one or more individuals with intent to cause harm, fear or control of another person. The parents of these children aggressors are responsible and they must be held accountable.

If a child learns to intimidate, and is far with it, there is much anecdotal evidence to suggest they leave school and continue their bullying in the workplace. What message are teachers and parents to send when they do not take bullying seriously. Children can be cruel, but it is for adults to guide them and take charge. Children who live in homes where parents and siblings older "tyrant" are naturally going to ensure that these trends. "This type of being bullied is associated with increased rates of absenteeism in schools, lower grades and feeling sick." Bullying is a major cause of suicide in our youth.

Parents need to discourage inappropriate name calling, offensive gestures and teasing. Parents need to act on this behavior, that their children know it is simply not acceptable. Parents should teach their children that people are different in this world, and help children learn to coexist with people who look differently, act differently, May or have medical conditions that make May to behave on the standard from time to time. Some parents think that if their child is picking on other students, it is a normal growing process for their child and development in nature.

Every child has the right not to be a victim of intimidation, harassed, assaulted or abused in their daily lives. At the extreme, this can lead to death of a child, either by suicide (a very conservative estimate is that 16 children commit suicide in the UK each year because they are being bullied at school) , Or violence. Research shows that at least 50% of our children will be bullied at school. It was shown that if you are seriously intimidating as a child, the trauma can last a lifetime.

The purpose of bullying is something that should always be taken seriously. It is always very difficult for the victim and must be addressed. You must be very careful that your child does not feel that being victims of bullying is their fault.
If we allow our children to be victims of intimidation, what are we to tell them about the world in which they live? That is acceptable behaviour? Bullying occurs in the workplace as well and must be eradicated before it happens.

Remember being bullied is never your child's fault. Everyone has the right to live their lives without feeling intimidated, threatened or dangerous.

Rachel Harding is a registered nurse and mother of 3 young children, she writes articles on issues concerning children and owns the www.yourkidsshop.com get recipes, stories, articles, forums, gifts so here
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