Are You A Better Mom Than Your Own Mother Was?

With Mother's Day to come to us… we might reflect on the type of mother, we are in relation to our own mothers, grandmothers. It May be difficult for some people to be honest about this.

Many people unconditionally reverence of their mothers. But for many people, in fact, 58% of those polled in a recent online survey to believe they are, in fact, better than their mothers own mother. Only 23% admitted that they are not better "Mom Dom." While the remaining 20% were still asked about the barrier.

Safe to say the overwhelming majority of respondents were most likely a fairly good relationship with their mother. So why would they think they are "better" to motherhood? One reason is that people create their own ideals, regardless of what others around them believe. If you May be strongly influenced by your family standards and models of deployment, you also have a network outside your family. These people also play a role in how you form your personal belief system. So, in essence, there are things that you were not, necessarily, raw or taught by your mother. The exact opposite May actually be true. Your beliefs May be totally at your mother.

Another factor in all our parenting skills is how we perceived our parents. If you believe that your mother was "perfect", then chances are, May still be perfect in your eyes and May you think you will never have the height. This is quite normal. For these people, their mother May be their hero, and his beliefs regarding the education of children take precedent. For me it was my grandmother, whom I have learned more about the care and love for a family.

Then there is a group that loves their mother, but only May follow his lead on some things. In time, opting for a "best practices". May they not consider themselves "better", and not even consider the competitiveness have contributed to establishing this kind of classification.

There are many reasons why some May feel better. Many of them had a better education opportunities than their mothers. Many of them have been afforded the benefits that their mother could not have dreamed of their age. Some believe that only their mother could never be as cool as they are, or as they think they are perceived by their children. May they feel they "understand" children better. It May some truth to this, however, your mother May have not wanted to have this kind of "friendly" relationship with you. Maybe she just wanted to be your mother, not your friend.

Who is really to say which is better? At the end of the day, those who think they are better must think about this ... You can not have been better if you never existed. Love your mother. For better or for worse, this wonderful woman helped make you who you are today. With Mother's Day coming up to us, remember mothers and women who have an influence in your life and honour for their efforts and love trying to be the best they could be in your life .

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Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. is a Certified Open adoption, an award-winning author of 2 books adoption The adoption and adoption online: Your Step-by-Step Guide. Mardie is also the talk-show host of Let's Talk Adoption.com with Mardie Caldwell and the founder of Life Adoption in 1986. She travels and speaks nationally on the adoption of the themes, subjects of family, infertility and writing. She was quoted in and consultation for children and adoption magazines and has appeared on CNN, CBS, ABC, BBC, NBC and Fox. Quoted in Parade Magazine, Caldwell is an adoptive mother who live in northern California.