Signs Of A Cheating Wife - Is She Or Isn't She?

Some signs of a cheating wife are quite obvious, if you'll allow yourself to see them. If you happen to see receipts in the trash for condoms or lingerie, or perhaps see the actual items, but they are never used during the times you are intimate with your wife, that's a pretty strong sign that she's got something going on.

Another obvious sign of a cheating wife is when she becomes secretive. If she starts to go someplace private for phone conversations or spends a lot of time on the internet, but you notice the browsing history has been deleted, that is definitely suspicious. Now, she might be planning a surprise for you (if the secrecy occurs around the time of your birthday or some other special occasion, I suggest you relax for the time being). Her online secrecy might also be due to indulging some fantasy in cyberspace that will never be part of her real-world life, but it does indicate that she's looking for something that is lacking from your relationship, and this is a signal that some work could be done to improve things.

Changes in sexual behavior can also be signs of a cheating wife. Decreased desire for sex could be due to any number of factors, including stress or fatigue, but if your wife suddenly starts avoiding having sex, it is a cause for concern. Some women who are cheating will actually seek out sex with their spouses more often. This might be out of guilt or as a deliberate ploy to keep the husband from suspecting her extracurricular activities. Increased sex drive can also result from other things like hormonal changes, so it is best not to take that in itself as a sign of infidelity.

Besides the amount of sexual interest, there may be changes in how she behaves during sexual intimacy. She might kiss differently or perhaps want to engage in sexual acts or sexual positions that she has never done before. While this may simply be due to an idea she got from a magazine article or friend, a new interest in a sexual position or act could be a sign that a new partner has given her new ideas.

Finally, a common sign of a cheating wife is when she is spending most of her free time with someone other than you. In some cases, this maybe with a female friend, so it may not seem suspicious at first. If your wife is cheating on you, the female friend may be acting as her alibi so your wife can easily slip out to be with her lover, but there is also the possibility that the friend IS the lover. It is not unusual for a man to see the signs of a cheating wife and then dismiss them because he's been able to determine that the wife is spending her time with a female friend, never suspecting that his wife is cheating on him with a woman and not a man.

If you do suspect that your wife is cheating on you, it is important to try to keep your cool and carefully go through the necessary steps to find out for sure what is happening and then decide what you really want to happen. The anger and hurt feelings can lead you to do things in haste that you might regret later. So before you do anything rash, I recommend that you first carefully gather evidence.

There are several ways to do this, and there are quite a number of online resources to help you do it yourself. The thing you have to realize is that you are emotionally involved in this, and chances are you are not as skilled as a professional investigator, so if you are going to collect your own evidence, you need a system that is simple to implement and allows you to get the evidence you need without risking getting caught investigating her. After all, if it turns out that she is not cheating, and she finds out that you were investigating her, that could sour the relationship just as easily as if she were having an affair - only in this case, you are the "bad guy" - the jealous, insecure, "nut-job" - and you will be the one your mutual friends turn against. So, choose carefully how you are going to go about things.

Only once you are absolutely sure that she is cheating should you confront her. If you do catch her cheating, you also need to decide what you want to do - try to work out your relationship or end it. Above all, you need to keep your anger under control - getting violent or destructive may seem like a good idea at the time, but the legal problems that can result from you acting on impulse can do far more harm to your life than her affair did.

By carefully gathering evidence, you can determine if the signs of a cheating wife that you have noticed are actually indicators that she is cheating or whether there is another possible explanation. If you do find proof that your wife has been unfaithful, then you can take the time to figure out your next step.

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